Mom Watches Her Son & Realizes A Valuable Lesson She Can't Believe She'd Forgotten To Say
Shaylynn Totolo 4/20/2016
Parenting is what I call a varsity sport. It's not for the faint of heart, and it surely isn't a part time gig. Which is exactly why we try and teach our kin the lessons we had to learn the hard way.
Parenting is full of everyday lessons ranging from the tiniest little time-out to the famous "Birds and the Bees" talking to. We desperately try and teach our kids about every little thing so that they learn how to live a full, adventurous, and wonderful life. Oh, and all while avoiding the appalling mistakes life lessons we endured along the way.
I'm not talking about the "Don't talk to strangers talk" either, what I want to tell them is the real stuff, the everyday stuff that sometimes gets left out or forgotten about.
Let's start with some basics...
Let's Talk Pink
You don't have to be a girl to wear pink, and you don't have to wear pink if you're a girl. Son, step out of the gender stereotype and rock that pink tut if you want to. Or, sweet girl, wear that blue and orange Chicago Bears jersey, just because you like princesses, doesn't mean can't like sports too.
If you love something, and want it to be part of your life, you may have to work for it. Not everything comes easy. Some people can sing and dance, or play a sport with ease, some people just can't. Just because you may be in the latter category, doesn't mean you can't participate. Work hard, try your best, and do it.
My dear son, I cannot begin to tell you the wonderfulness that will come with the skill of cooking. Don't settle for a drive thru meal, meal from a bag, or the freezer. With a bit of elbow grease, a few ingredients and some time you can make yourself, and your friends or partner a wonderful meal made with love. Master at least a few meals, as well as homemade ice cream to bring to your dear mother's house when you visit.
Be different. Plain and simple. You know what is cool about being you? Everything. Be an individual, and embrace all your kookiness. After all, it did come from your father or myself, and we are pretty darn awesome.
Along those lines, don't feel like you ever need to have a drink, or drug to make yourself fit in, or feel more interesting. Don't give in to peer pressure. Be strong.
It's all those tiny moments in life that make up one big wonderful story. All those tiny, precious moments. Enjoy them. Breathe them in, take mental pictures. Heck, take actual pictures and make a giant, beautiful photo album. You will never get this crazy thing called youth back, so enjoy it.
Be kind to everyone, you never know who might be having a hard day. That includes the server, the teller, the clerk at the store. Make peoples lives better, not worse. Sprinkle compliments around like glitter, they cost you nothing, and make the world a happier place.
There is a quote from Mr. Rogers that I always think of in times of despair, or tragedy.
"When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, "Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping." To this day, especially in times of "disaster," I remember my mother's words and I am always comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers – so many caring people in this world."
The good people will always outweigh the bad. Look for the good, and the good will find you.
So, my sweet children, if in the rat race of life I forget to mention these little lessons, please read and take them to heart. I promise you it will be worth it.
Please SHARE these little lessons with your friends and family!