She Thought She Nailed The Interview Until This One Thing Got In The Way
Sasha Alonzo 5/9/2016
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There are certain situations you can rock, and certain ones that are just plain scary. Turns out though, there are little tricks to make any social setting work in your favor!
We have all heard things like "don't chew with your mouth full," or "always looks someone in the eye," when it comes to good behavior. But, did you know there are little tips that can be taken, and learned from in most situations that allow you to read those social cues and learn from them.
Make A Killer First And Last Impression
Most people remember two things after meeting you. 1) Their first impression of you and 2) their last impression of you. So, make it count and start with and bang, and end on a high note. Because like my uncle always said, you never get a second chance to make a good first impression.
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Allow For Quiet Time
When you are speaking with someone, pause and let them react. By maintaining eye contact, it will put pressure on them to elaborate or answer, leaving you in the drivers seat.
Stay Calm In Angry Situations
By staying calm as a cucumber when someone is angry or irritated with you it makes the other person less mad, and puts you in the drivers seat. Have you ever been upset at someone and they are just standing there listening to you yell and scream? They are in complete control of that situation, where is exactly where you want to be. So, take a breath, relax and stay calm.
Chew Gum In Awkward Situations
Chewing gum in an uncomfortable setting can trick the brain into thinking you are actually perfectly comfortable. Of course, we wouldn't recommend it in a professional setting.
Be Happy When You Want Someone To Like You
Sounds pretty obvious, right? But being happy around people you want to like you really does make them notice, and appreciate your attitude and optimism.
Group Sequences Together
When you need to remember important information, group things together in a sequence. The brain can't remember more than about seven numbers at a time. This is exactly why phone numbers are grouped in sequences of three numbers-three numbers-four numbers. If you were meant to remember all ten numbers, it would be nearly impossible.
Be Aware Of Your Handshake
No dead fish handshakes, people! It has been said that when a manager has two great candidates, of equal skills and qualifications, the candidate with the best handshake tends to get the job. Yep, it's that important!
Appeal To Individuals, Not A Group
When you are making your case, or plea, appeal to the individual person one on one, not in a group. In a group setting, people will assume that someone else will take the lead, whereas if you speak to people individually, the responsibility is on them.
Give Your Date An Adrenaline Rush
Adrenaline gives you endorphins, energy and just generally feels good. All those good feelings are then transferred onto yours truly. So, do something daring!
Don't Always Give Rewards
It's been shown over and over again that when someone is forced to do a boring or difficult task WITHOUT a reward at the end, they actually enjoy doing the task more. Moral of the story, don't feel like you always need to offer a reward for doing a remedial or difficult job.
Use A Persons Name When Speaking To Them
From the waiter at a restaurant, to the CEO of your company, using a persons name makes them feel more appreciated and heard.
Prove that you are listening, and absorbing information by showing the person you are speaking with social cues. Nodding along when in conversation is polite, and indicates you are genuinely interested.
Be In Demand
People tend to love things that are in demand. Whether it is the newest purse, or a friend, its human nature to want something that someone else has. Seems silly, I know, but it's true. You have to have friends, to make friends. It is like being endorsed. So be in demand, be sought after and let the invites roll in.
Fake It Till You Make It
Not having a good day? Sorry Charlie, put a smile on and fake it. By "faking it" your brain will start to believe what it is that you're trying to do and start to act that way. Whether it's in work, at the gym or having to do with a new diet, fake it until you trick your brain into pushing it onward and upwards.
There are always going to be certain situations that are just awkward or uncomfortable, but with these little tricks and tips, you can at the very least feel better about getting through them. Just remember, be confident and stay positive.