Single Mother Runs To The Car Crying, Rude Older Man's Comment Goes Viral
LifeAspire Staff 3/10/2017
For those of us who are parents and even for those who aren't, we have mothers to remind us of just how cute and perfect we used to be, despite of all those times when we weren't exactly so!
Now that memory has a companion in social media, it is less easy to always pretend that parenting is a easy peasy walk in the park. Especially those handling the responsibilities of raising kids on their own, life is filled with moments of extreme highs and extreme lows.
Aly Brothers is one such single parent raising two boys whom she calls her blue-eyed angels, even though the sweet boys aren't always so angelic! Proving the point was their recent trip to the grocery store when the kids weren't in the mood to cooperate with their mother.
The time was roughly 8:00 am when Aly realized that she was out of her children's favorite food - chocolate milk. A trip to the grocery store was absolutely necessary and unavoidable. But once there, the kids had other plans:
"My youngest cried almost the entire time we were in the store. He didn't want to sit in the cart, he didn't want to be buckled, he wanted to hold all the groceries on his lap. He got mad. He threw his shoe, he threw my wallet, he threw the three groceries that did fit on his lap."
And like Murphy's law, the older boy wasn't much interested in making things any easier:
"My three year old wanted to be superman and stand on the cart. That was fine. I told him to hold on and stand straight. He did not. He fell off, he leaned backwards and knocked things off their displays. He leaned back and bumped a stranger."
Just reading about this is enough to make most of us frustrated and tired. Thankfully, Aly is a much more patient parent, and she kept her cool and trudged along despite of the negative looks from other patrons of the grocery store.
Things continued to get challenging as the boys fought over a balloon, opened freezer doors, kept grabbing unnecessary groceries. None of this however was going to break down Aly, at least not until she was at the cashier about to check out and leave. Aly recalls feeling that all eyes were on her in a "can't you control your own children" sort of way.
However, there was one comment that threw her over the edge.
"One older gentleman whispered, 'she's pretty young for two kids' and I lost it."
Without saying a word, Ally walked to her car, buckled her kids, and drove off with tears streaming down her cheeks. She never expected that the simple grocery trip would leave her in a pool of tears. Wanting to vent about the inappropriate comment and the nonstop judgement at the grocery store, Aly turned to her Facebook page:
"They don't know me. They don't know me as a mother. They don't know my children. They don't know I was married before I started a family. They don't know I left that marriage because of abuse knowing I would have it just as hard as a single mother. It's hard people. The glares and whispers and judgments are hard."
Aly's confession sheds a bright light on parenting moments that aren't all about laughter and joy. It's reality that all parents face, but is amplified when handling alone as a single parent.
Aly ended her post with a simple yet inspirational note:
"... if you see a parent struggling, if you see a kid throwing a tantrum, if you see a mom on the verge of tears...please say something nice. Please don't glare with judgement. And to all moms out there having a day like mine...I see you, I know you, I love you. You are strong and you are doing just fine."
Seeing that her post has been liked and shared thousands of times since the incident, we can all agree that the world is on her side. It was a necessary reminder that it takes a village to raise a child, and we should all strive to be a positive and patient member of the community who is quick to help but not quick to judge!
Sources: Facebook/Aly Brothers FB Image Source: Facebook/Aly Brothers